How to Encourage the Best Sibling Relationship in Children


How to Encourage the Best Sibling Relationship in Children | Veronika's Little World | Web comic about parenting and motherhood


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HAVE YOU ALWAYS BEEN CLOSE TO YOUR SIBLINGS GROWING UP?

I can tell you that I have. We did have a period where our interests differed, but as far as I remember, my sister and I have always relied on each other whenever we were in trouble or whenever we just feel plain happy. There are 3.5 years difference between us, so naturally, there were points in our life where we didn't truly understand each other, but it was okay. It was all part of growing up, especially that our personality was also vastly different. While I was the nerd in the family, my sister has always been surrounded by friends and she was popular as a student. However, we influence each other. A lot. Both of us love comics, drawing, music and movies. Whatever I did in my spare time, she did it, too, even if the result was vastly different. Was that the reason why we were so close to each other?

Wel, yes and no.

We did share a few interests growing up, but we are still two vastly different personalities. We have different approaches to a lot of things. If I'm methodical, she's more intuitive. If I'm impulsive, she's calmer and more relax. There were even times where we were actually frustrated with one another. We used to have explosive fights. 

However, whatever we do, we always feel and miss each other's presence. Even now after we have our own children. And I have always been filled with wonder at how we manage to maintain this togetherness. I'm not talking about being together physically - it's more about mental support, I suppose. Whatever I do I never feel alone. I know my sister is out there to support me if I need her. That's why I have lately been self-analysing our sibling relationship. Especially now that I have my own two daughters and wish for them to have the same relationship that I have with my sister. Some people might be lucky in the way that they just click with their siblings right away, but surely there are things parents can do to encourage cool sibling relationship? 

Talking about prents, my parents must have done the right thing. 

But if there is anything I DO learn, sibling relationship is forged from day one your older children are introduced to their newborn siblings. And although it may not be perfect, this is the kind of environment that my parents, and now I, tried to provide for that wonderful relationship to blossom. 

So here is my thoughts on the subject. This is just sort of a reflection on my journey as a sister and what works so far for my own children, so by all means, anyone can add to the list. 

  1. Kindness and respect
    Being kind and respectful pays. As far as one concerns, children always try to push their boundaries and often they will do the same with their siblings, but this is all fine as long as they are mindful of the other’s feelings. Growing up, my parents always emphasise on the importance of saying kind words to the others and refraining from saying hurtful comments. As siblings we are sometimes guilty of doing this, but the goal is not to make the hurtful comments into a habit.
  2. Reliance
    My parents always said that since there are only the two of us, we have to rely on each other, especially when the day comes when my parents have to leave this world. It is interesting how they actually teach us this early by asking me to help my sister with small things. And as my sister grew up, they encourage us to do little things for each other, and it could be something as simple as fixing a drink for the other. I now look back fondly on those days when I’m encouraging my eldest to help her sister with things like fixing breakfast, tying shoelaces or just simply to draw a shape. Not that I can’t help her myself, but it’s so heart-warming to watch them converse with each other as my eldest teaches her younger sister to do things. Often it didn’t just stop at helping. They ended up spending time with each other. This pattern hopefully would follow them as they grow into adults, just as I’ve been enjoying it with my own sister. We have come to rely on each other for emotional support or just simple companionship.
  3. Always point out how much love they have for each other
    My mom passed on a very good habit as we grew up. She would mention the special thing that my sister would do for me that I might not notice in private, and she would add something like, “See how much she loves you.” Or something like that. I have just started to do this recently. Sometimes it was all very simple, really. I would point out how happy Edie looks whenever Olivia comes home from school to Olivia and told her how much her younger sister loves her and misses playing with her. And vice versa, I told Edie how much Olivia cared for her by giving her a lot of her time.
  4. Never force us to stick to each other all the time
    Children are children, and sometimes they just want to play with children their own age without being a babysitter for their younger siblings.It is great for children to stay in a group and be aware of each other's safety as a rule of thumb, but from my experience growing up, I have never felt burdened by the presence of a younger sibling. That was probably because my mom was almost never onto me when she saw that I wanted to spend my time with a different companion more than my sister. She would gently remind me to include 'everyone', but never specifically mentioned my sister's name. It might be a little tricky depending on the situation, but this has worked well in the past, so I'm doing it to my kids. My youngest, while she has no friend her age in a play date would naturally follow her older sister, but I try very hard not to turn her into a burden and vice versa. It's been great, so far! They try to accommodate each other whenever they can. And when things don't work out, the other could always find an activity that she can do by herself, or she could hang out with me.
     
  5. Fighting is alright, but don't forget to make up before bed time... Every great relationship includes great fights (and huge make-up). That's why a lot of great parenting experts out there advise parents not to get involve (too soon) in their children's fights. I let my children fight all the time, and encourage them to think why they fight in the first place. There is also one thing that I carry with me after all these years, that it is okay to let go of my pride and be the first one to extend the peace offering. Giving way and apologising doesn't mean defeat.
  6. ...And no matter what they do, don't compare them with each other

    This is hard. Sometimes you feel that you favour one child's abilities more than the others, but whatever you feel, at least do not express it in words. I feel this way occasionally. Sometimes I gave into the urge, but I don't think it's beneficial for my children and for their relationship. Being labelled is never pleasant, no matter how great the label might sound. It creates competition, and sometimes even jealousy. As children, they hinder close sibling relationship. It is hard to trust and be close to someone you feel is your rival, don't you think?  

Anyway, those are my thoughts when it comes to encouraging close sibling relationship. Or at least, that what I notice works so far. I saw a lot of great sibling relationships (and not so great), and all of them circle around those six points above. I saw siblings who in the surface seem great and close to each other, but got into competitive bickering and blame game. On the other hand, I also saw great sibling relationships where the siblings genuinely loved to spend time with each other, where there were a lot of tolerance, fun banters and emotional support. I am grateful that my sibling relationship is a beautiful one and I wish for others to experience the same thing. If I have to describe it, my sibling relationship is not perfect, but it's full of laughter and togetherness. We seek each other out and we do crazy things together. We even still behave like children whenever we are together (sometimes). LOL. 

So what do you think about this month's comics? Yep, that was one of the crazy things I did with my sister. Definitely not recommended. Actually, just in case you're reading this. this is not the first time I drew about haircut. You could read about my other haircut adventure here. I have also added a comic archive, so you could find past episodes easily. It's here.

About Work

Anyway, late post again. I haven't been able to follow my own schedule these days. A lot have happened in the past month. I have added a portfolio, and in the future, I would be more likely to promote my service as an illustrator. Check it out, if you have the chance and drop me a line! Do you think you would like to collaborate with me? Then contact me here


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How to Pick Your Fight Wisely with Your Toddler


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NOBODY LIKES TO PICK A FIGHT WITH A TODDLER...

...and if you have one in your house at the moment, you know why. They are the most bull-headed creatures ever gracing the Earth, and I'm not kidding here. Often no amount of reasoning is able to bend their one track minds. Take Miss E for example. At three years old (the terrible, terrible three, I tell you, not two), she is so set on the ritual of pouring her water from once cup to the other before rinsing her mouth after brushing her teeth that she practically exploded when I told her that we shouldn't do that before the (ever) late school run. Waitaminute. May be I should turn that into a comic strip as well and shove it under her nose when her toddler behaves the same way in the future *evil cackles*. 

On a lighter note, I also notice that she would actually still do what we want her to do even after she has said no vehemently. Funny, right? I tell you, toddlers all over the world, you guys really should sort out your priorities (despite that, no complaint here. Definitely prefer her doing my bid  than not doing it altogether). 

The title of this article sounds like a How-to article, but the truth is, I think we can all agree that toddlers are one of the biggest life's mystery. We never know what's going on in their mind. Having said that, you can actually pick your fight, though. Assess your situation. Are they/you:

  1. late going somewhere?
  2. in a danger or might be in danger?
  3. Is their choice potentially ruining their personality?

And if you say no to all of them, by all means, indulge yourself, save yourself from a big tantrum and let them do what they want. Because, believe me, your answer will mostly be yes to any of the question. And it's always good to remember: what doesn't kill them only makes them stronger. Also, hugs work (most of the time).

Anyway, it's been 2 WHOLE MONTHS *gasp!!!*ever since I truly publish anything. I'm so so sorry for making you guys wait that long. A lot of things happened (mostly mummy and wife duty), and by the time it was 10 pm I found it hard to find the will to draw. Lame excuse :P. But art-wise, I'm quite proud of this comic strip. This is probably one of the hardest I drew at 7 panels, especially because it involved quite a lot of perspective drawing. But love the green chair and the blocks. Took me a solid 3-hour work to study the chair drawing itself at the beginning. All in all, it's a great learning process.

As for the story itself, I found that at times I may want to brag about my little girl a little too much to close friends and relative. So I should have seen this coming. But what mum doesn't find herself bragging about their children, albeit very privately and off Facebook? I'm definitely guilty of bragging, although I try to keep it at a minimum, and certainly not to strangers or people I've just known. 


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A Surprising Perspective


A Surprising Perspective || Bruised Ego || Veronika's Little World | Web comic | Parenting, Motherhood, Slice of Life


A Surprising Perspective

Just a day in my life... nothing too heavy, but I was surprised by how honest she could be! She usually tends to be more sympathetic whenever I unwittingly complained about something, but that day she plainly told me something I least expected her to say. Although in theory I know children were born with their own personality and preference, I was still taken aback when I was presented with the real-life taste of what her beauty standard could be! Growing up, my mom and I have always had different aesthetic standards, so I should have expected this from my own daughter, but this still feels new. When she was a toddler, we did have fights about her clothing preference, but as she grew she left her toddler fashion sense behind and closely followed what fashion I chose today. But I guess not when it came to make ups. Watching this little girl grow into a fine young lady is a pleasure, indeed, and I can't wait for other surprises she springs up. 

I love raising daughters!


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Hug Helps to Heal


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Hug Helps to Heal (Almost Everything)...

I still remember as if it happened yesterday. One moment I was a carefree childless young woman, and the next a mother of a newborn baby. It was all so surreal. The first few days were like a dream, filled with a lot of peeks into the bassinet and awkward little cuddles. Yep, I am not a baby person. I'd sooner answer cheeky questions from an obnoxious school kid than holding and cooing someone's baby. And yet, a baby of my own....was so magical! Being a mum was all I've ever wanted since I was in grade 5 (d'uh!) and there the baby was...dream comes true!

Until reality sunk in.

See, I was blessed with an adorable high need baby. Wait a minute, adorable wasn't even on my list of descriptive words when she was at her neediest. And she, my lovely readers, just wouldn't stop at just a few months. She grew from being a high need baby to a high need toddler, to a high need preschooler, and so on and so on. All her cries sounded the same - dramatic, and her tantrums were just similarly so - explosive. And once her feelings were out, there was no stopping them. Period.

At first, I resisted. I watched people with babies and listened to friendly advice. Elevated mattress? Check. White noise? Check. Favourite toy (or more like persuading her to have one)? Check. Time out? Err....check.

So what went wrong??? I was earnestly trying and yet there was no stopping that temper tantrum from escaping her little body. 

Until I gave up and just picked her up. Close to me in a sling, just like that. 

So when she was finally a toddler with her infamous tantrums, I would watch her rolling on the floor for a minute or two, and then offered, "Wanna hug?"

When as an older child she cries from even the simplest things (that make me want to roll my eyes and stomp my feet to a different direction), I ask her above all things, before all serious talks commence, "Do you need a hug?"

Before we know it, hugging has become a routine in our relationship. And believe it or not, tears and tantrums solved within minutes, sometimes seconds. 

Hug is good for me, too. Because no matter how boiling mad I felt towards her, once I resolved myself to hug her, the anger melts away somehow. At least it dulls. And manageable.

And my big baby knows hug is good for her and the others, too. So she passes it around. 

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To the Lady who Encouraged Me When My Toddler Misbehaved in Public Place, I say Thank You


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This comic strip is dedicated to all mothers out there on this Mother's Day...

She was such a nice lady. I remember trying my hardest to make Little E behave even only for the next five minutes, whispering soft admonishment and gentle encouragement for her to at least use her 'inside voice'. We brought toys, but she has long become uninterested in them. Instead, she was more interested in playing with her surrounding, and at this point of her boredom she has resorted to using the bench as climbing equipment and eyeing the opportunity to touch strangers' possessions around her. Not mature enough to command perfect behaviour, she was truly unable to adapt to her surrounding. She was two at that time. I had no choice but to bring her along for obvious reason. 

The people at the place we went to were generally understanding, but I could feel a few pairs of eyes who would occasionally look our way. At one point, my husband had to even bring her outside to have quiet words with her about the importance of being quiet.

We tried so hard to manage her behaviour.

But of course, as vigilant as you could be, there are times when things escape your attention. That time was when Little E decided that the little black bag on the seat in front of her was a cat. She patted the object and meowed spontaneously, surprising the owner of the bag. She pulled the bag on her lap. And Little E earned a few chuckles from her audience. But I was horrified (looking back, it was rather funny..)

I quickly apologised, but the lady gently reassured me. And I thought it would stop at that. That the lady would pretend the whole embarrassing episode never happened at all. 

But she did more than just saying it wasn't my fault. At the first opportunity, she turned to face me again, and she said the kindest thing people have said to me in a very long time. That my baby toddler was lovely, and she was a good kid. That she was just behaving normal like a two-year-old should. And that I was a great mother.

A burden was released that day. For some reasons I couldn't fathom, tears was blurring my eyes and there was nothing I could do to stop it. I was rightly touched. I felt understood, and her words lifted my defeated spirit. I could see now that bringing her along was all not for nothing and she could still safely practice about behaving well in public without being judged meticulously. 

You see, we parents have dreaded bringing our kids to public place at some point of our parenting life. We are filled with worry of being a nuisance to others around us, just because our babies refuse to stop crying or because our toddlers decide then and there to throw a tantrum. Otherwise, some of use would not go as far as using electronic devices to pacify our children. It is sad, but the reason behind it is totally understandable in this constantly changing rules of parenthood. And we are aware of how much tolerance people have exerted for us. But the kindness of being told that our family is welcome and not a nuisance, and that we're doing great job trying to keep our toddler in line is like a breath of fresh air.

To that nameless lady, whoever she is, I say thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I think I will remember, for the rest of my life. 

To strangers in public place, be kind to young parents. Especially those who try very hard to keep their children in check, although they might be failing miserably at that time. Kids learn fast. 

To other mums out who are struggling with their young children out there, chin up! You know you are great!

Happy Mother's Day!

xoxo

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Oh My, Isn't This -Blue Butterflies- Cinderella Party Adorable?


Simply Adorable Blue Butterfly Cinderella Themed Birthday Party | DIY Dessert Table


Forget Comic Strip This Week and Let Me Show Off a little... :P

Remember that one time when I said I would concentrate on making comics but would also upload some personal projects on the side? Well, this is one of those personal projects. And pardon the title of this blog post, but that's exactly how I feel O(≧▽≦)O. Can you see that I put a lot of love into this?

For those who know me personally, they also know that I love birthdays. I really do. And that includes the idea of having this special day especially dedicated for you along with flowers, decorations, presents, good food and most importantly...very close family and friends! My family has always made me feel super duper special on my birthdays so I want my children to feel the same. This is how I express my love for them once a year. And being budget-challenged, I take pleasure in presenting beautiful handmade birthday dessert table for them. It also gives them a chance to get involve in the preparation level and make memories together. My eldest remembers the birthday parties I threw for her so far and has always recounted excitedly how she was involved in them. 

I will write more in detail about the DIY aspects of this party, but for now, it's show off time! I manage to take some nice pictures, so here is the first one.

Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | DIY Dessert Table

Again, simple dessert table. Everything I used here was from the dessert crockery I collected over the years or recycled box/basket from last Easter. The brown box at the bottom of the cake tier actually came from discarded packaging. Due to its strength and simplicity (no print or sticker) I kept it aside for this purpose. At the moment I'm still using it as a shadow box for one of my little figurines. Flowers from my garden and from our local supermarket, nothing fancy and lifted the atmosphere quite a bit. And I love how the fruits stood out visually. Plus that was one of the first things our little guests finished. I hate having heaps of lollies on my dessert table, so this is my solution. My dessert criteria are that they have to be easy to eat and light. At least we weren't left with too many sweets after the party. 

Another closer look...

Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | Dessert Table
Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | Dessert Table

That green plant in the bird vase is called Baby Sunrose, and it's a versatile kind. At a glance it seems like one of those easy to grow ground cover succulents, but it has the cutest hot pink pom-pom like little flowers, and when you put them in water it could last for weeks beautifully! All year round cut flowers at your disposal. I used Baby Sunrose for almost every event I hosted at home as it is very easy to grow and take care of. And talking about plant, here is a closer look at my party backdrop.

Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | DIY Floral Wreath Backdrop with Blue Bunting Banners
Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | DIY Floral Wreath Backdrop with Blue Bunting Banners
Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | DIY Floral Wreath Backdrop with Blue Bunting Banners

DIY by yours truly! :P The flower garland is not as complex as it looks, and it's inspired by this tutorial by Oh Happy Day! I decided to simplify it for the sake of my bank account and used the branches of my of my bushes. I cut blue glitter paper into triangle bunting and just add minimal amount of flowers. As for the butterflies, I bought them off Ebay. If you have extra time, you can even order them from China - super cheap but takes 2 whole months to arrive! The butterflies have magnets so after we finished with them we arranged some of them on our fridge and kept the rest for next time.

Why butterflies? For those who have watched the live action Cinderella, you know why! Little Miss E loves the live action movie even more so than the animation that it is only natural to design the dessert table after the live action version. Besides, who don't love butterflies? They're adorable!

The only thing I think I could do better is the paper banner. I wish it was a little longer and flowing. But still, the whole idea is so simple and cute! The tutorial for the paper banner is at Oh Happy Day! as well. Check it out! I'll create a tutorial for the simplified flower garland next time. 

Aaaanddd....here is the cake!

Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | Cake
Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | Cake
Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | Cake

...with edible lace. One of my closest friends made the cake this time, which is a huge help! I feel that as the years go by and I start designing and drawing again I have even less time to prepare for an event like this. She did a marvellous job, didn't she? I love how the tiny toddler Cinderella looks just at home on top of the cake.

What about crowns for our little princesses?

Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | DIY Lace Crown Headband
Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | DIY Lace Crown Headband
Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | DIY Lace Crown Headband

The kids and I had a lot of fun making the crowns. Okay, they might not be the best-looking ones out there (check out Girl Inspired for a concise tutorial), but they were definitely made with love. Honestly speaking, if I could do it all over again, I would choose a stiffer kind of lace like the ones in the first two pictures. The less stiff one was definitely better for the whole crown circlet around the head. 

Here is the rest of the details.

Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | Butterfly and Rumballs

Rumballs. Yum. And flowers.

Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | Roses
Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | Roses

And the crown plus some meringues.

Blue Butterfly Cinderella Birthday Party | DIY Dessert Table

And finally, a picture of my birthday girl and I, she looking happy in her handmade lace crown. Isn't she adorable? Happy 3rd birthday, luv! Glad you enjoyed the day.

DIY Blue Butterfly Cinderella Themed Birthday Party | Dessert Table | Birthday Girl
Simple and Adorable Blue Butterfly Cinderella Themed Birthday Party | Dessert Table | Floral Garland | Buntings
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Whatever the Others are Having...


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SHE JUST HAS TO HAVE WHATEVER THE OTHERS ARE HAVING...

In the end, mummy persevered and Edie didn't get the soda... although mum had to suffer her tantrum. Haha, she's allowed to feel disappointed whenever possible no is a no, unfortunately (although sometimes my willpower crumbles under the pressure of her tantrum).

Anyway, just a snippet from my daily life. And for your information, little Miss E failed to get the beer, too (and she shouldn't be able to). What a drama, though *weak laughter*. Enjoy this week's comic strip, and once again sorry for the delay, people. Drawing and working on design projects earlier this year have been taking its toll on me. It's not that I run out of ideas, but I have the responsibility for my family (and especially my children) to take care of my health and state of mind by having enough sleep since enough sleep = happy mum = happy children = happy family. But don't worry, new strip will always keep rolling, and once I figure out the right time management, eventually I will stick to my schedule.

Thank you so much for your ongoing support! 

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Overruled by Girls!


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Our Family is overruled by girls...

...it's true! We have always had more girls than boys born in the family for some reason. I also notice that it didn't only affect my generation. My grandma is the youngest of nine children, among which only two are boys. The X chromosome is strong in my grandma's side of the family. My mum is the second of 5 siblings, and again there are only 2 males born in the family. In my generation, I am the eldest of nine grandchildren, and we have more girls than boys, especially in the first half of the set. And as we multiply once again we speculate on the strength of our X chromosome, and so far my sister, my cousins and I have managed to produce five girls and one boy in total.

Woohooooo...!! Girl power!!

Not that I complain. Girls are lovely, and I always want to have girls (of course, boys are lovely too, and occasionally I do wonder how it feels to have a son). My children and their cousins bond so well, and together they come up with the most interesting games a child could ever think of (makeshift talent show with all the adults gathered in one room as their audience, anyone?)

Most interesting is how they solve the lack of boys needed to fit in their sometimes gender-stereotyped pretend play (hands up anyone who never pretends to be mums or dads as a child). There has to be someone who is generous enough to be 'it'. I was one most of the time. At the beginning we switched roles, but after a while, the other girls expected me to do it. But the thing is - lucky for them - I didn't mind it at all, it was so much more fun to pretend to be a dad or a guy villain, after all. Besides, my childhood cropped hair made me suitable to play the role. 

Bearing in mind my play experience in the past, it is also interesting how this pattern is somewhat repeated in our family's younger generation. Only that it didn't exactly happen in the way I imagined - like, the eldest graciously made way for the younger ones. My eldest is assertive enough to let her sibling and cousins know that she won't settle for anything LESS than a second main character. Ah, the headache. There were lots of fights and tears. Being THE mum or princess is everything for them at this age.

But I'm not bothered. Before long, fights became terse negotiations, and negotiations became willingness to work together, and now they don't mind to be the 'dad' so long that they don't have to do the role all the time. 

Aaaah....I wish I'm a child, too!

I wonder if boys have the same problem, though...

Oh yeah, this comic strip is actually a prequel to what happened in this comic strip. If you've read that one, now you can make the connection. 

BTW, I made this comics with my new Ipad pro and apple pencil. Isn't it a beauty?? I'm so proud of it. I still sketched and inked it on my drawing pad, only that I did the colouring completely in Ipad. Not that it saved me any time, using Ipad. But then again, I'm learning new ways to draw. I have to say I'm getting faster and faster. Now, is only real life doesn't interfere as much with my drawing ... *bawling my eyes out*


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New Year, New Day, New Comics...


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Happy New Year!

Hi everyone! I know that it's been 2 months and a half since I've gone MIA but let me wish you all a very happy new year! Time flies, huh? Before you know it, March is already here. I'm so sorry for neglecting this website for so long, but the truth is, the past months have probably been the busiest in my life as I'm juggling the kids, holiday and some freelance works (to be honest, it feels like I'm losing the juggle somehow). I'm excited about doing illustrations for some infographics, but since the project is not final yet I can't say anything yet about it. I've also been involved in designing website for a wellness school, more about that later. Aaanddd.... there are also my girls' birthdays and some mini renovation so things are certainly never ending for me for now. Not that I complain as being busy is always great, but I do miss my drawing and updating my website, and there is also the little guilt that lurks deep within as I have made a promise with myself to be more regular in my comic delivery. 

Nevertheless, here I am! Things might be a lot slower with all this business in my life, but I never plan to abandon this comics strip .  However, I do learn that building up comic reserve takes so much energy and time so I really admire other comic artists who are also parents themselves. My Miss E is starting pre-school this year, but that doesn't mean she will be going to school full time. No, schooling full time is still 2 years away, although I have to admit, with the time rolling faster than ever, 2 years will past in a blink of an eye, so I'm determined to invest more on my children and make as much memories with them as possible. After all, this comics will not be here without them in my life. This is their childhood journal, after all. 

Anyway, here is the new comic strip. It comes from the reserve that I have, but I just couldn't keep it any longer (I really really haven't had any chance to draw (T^T)). There is no really deep thought behind it, I just want to draw this for myself. People who are close to me probably know how much I love my fringe and how much I took care of its appearance by myself. This is just something that happened awhile back. I hope this brings a smile to your face. One thing is clear, though, life with kids is never boring - there may be tears, laughter and even anger, but boring has certainly never been the case.

PS. This is one of the hardest comics I've ever drawn. I really hate drawing scissors.... T_T can't never get it right even with the help of a mirror. 


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Christmas, the Spirit of Christmas and Children


Christmas, the Spirit Christmas and Children | Veronika's Little World | Webcomic


Do you have a big or a quiet Christmas Tradition?

Hey, everyone! It's almost Christmas time, and as the end of the year is drawing near, I thought I would end the year with a Christmas special. Christmas is such an important day for us, especially that because our family is celebrating it not only as a holiday but also as the day Christ was born. For us, Christmas is not only a season of giving and kindness but also a season of reflection and prayers. 

And that's where it actually gets interesting for us...and the kids. You know, as of this very moment, my eldest still very much believes in Santa Claus, and if we are careful enough, she might probably still completely believe in Santa in the next few years (unless one of their mates break the news for them that Santa Claus, in fact, exists but in spirit only). And we intend to keep them innocent for as long as we're able.

You see, although my own family doesn't really practice elaborate Christmas traditions (no elf in the shelf, even though the kids have been wondering), but I remember Christmas full of warm and beautiful memories about the lights, trees, carols, Santa Claus and his reindeers. That is the reason why we made the efforts to relive those childhood memories for our children. We want them to experience the same magical moments that we experienced in the past ourselves, and like us, relive the experiences as adults with fond memories.

However, it is also very easy to blow Christmas out of proportion as too many presents and material things can lead to misunderstanding on what Christmas is all about. And as we're immersed in the desire to reward the children for their year-long good behaviour, it does not take a lot to go overboard. And the bigger Christmas family traditions/celebration you have, the harder it is to tread the fine line. I have to keep reminding myself to speak to my children that Christmas is really not about satisfying oneself with the presents but also about sharing and preparing oneself to be a better person next year. 

My children are still a little young and long winded explanation on the true meaning of Christmas might probably be lost in them. But for now, I'm just making sure that the children are grateful no matter how big or small are the presents they receive, and talk about how Christmas is much more meaningful shared with friends and family. 

I myself am constantly learning, and I couldn't help questioning myself every time I buy the children's Christmas presents. The boundary is there, it's just that in my excitement it is very easy to just keep buying the gifts. I too have to keep reminding myself that the presents are really just secondary and the important thing is about giving and sharing.

Anyway, I hope you enjoy the new comic strip! Merry Christmas 2015 and Happy New Year 2016 and see you next year!


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Vacation Notice + Free Printable 2016 Calendar


Veronika's Little World || Webcomic || 2016 Free Printable Calendar in PDF


We're going on a long overdue vacation...

How's everyone doing? Hope you all manage to stay sane in this busiest time of the year. Things have been more than a little crazy over here for ourselves, what with works, end of year school performances, Christmas shopping and family gatherings, but I guess we have no choice but to soldier on (and find a bit of me-time here and there in between :p) 

That's why we decided to go on a long relaxing holiday after the end of year's festivities to recharge our energy. Veronika's Little World will be on holiday from 28 Dec 2015 to 1 February 2016. My apology for not being able to update during the break, but I promise to be back with more episodes and drawings after the school holiday ends! :)

I also would like to say a BIG thank you to all my readers who have stuck with me through my highs and lows in the past year. For you all, I have created a 4"x6" printable 2016 desk calendar. You could download the calendar here. The PDF will be opened in a new tab/window, and all you have to do is to right click and choose 'save as' option if you wish to print it later. Anyway, here's how the calendar looks like I took lots of pictures of it and I couldn't resist showing off a little bit ;-) I'm quite proud of how it turns like, haha. 

TERMS & CONDITIONS : For private use only. That means you could print the calendar as many times as you want to, but no selling or reusing the graphics for your own design or website without permission, please. I swear there will be consequences!
Veronika's Little World || Webcomic || Downloadable 2016 Free Printable Calendar
Veronika's Little World || Webcomic || Downloadable 2016 Free Printable Calendar
Veronika's Little World || Webcomic || Downloadable 2016 Free Printable Calendar